degeneration traveling the entire world or invest a deal that is great of â€œputtering at material we love,â€ many paths of generative (life-giving) solitude emerge. An elder few can reside in one home and share a deal Â«linkÂ» that is great of together yet have various external and internal attentions, concentrations, enjoyments. There was a coming together to relationship, consume, enjoy time with other people, possibly sleep together, and in addition there is certainly a period to take pleasure from life for the peaceful moments separate from a another. There is certainly contentment in separateness that proves, that we could really see the beauty and grace that emerge in a lifetime of loving and being loved as we look back at our lives, how wise it was to work on getting beyond enmeshment/abandonment and power struggle so.
Stage 11: The Fourth Major Crisis. One or each for the lovers becomes chronically sick and, finally, gravely sick. The coupleâ€™s love and strength are tested by crisis after crisis for his or her power to stay both intimate and separate, attached and detached, loving and caregiving yet self-focused sufficient not to ever get utterly depressed through the caregiver anxiety.