degeneration traveling the entire world or invest a deal that is great of “puttering at material we love,†many paths of generative (life-giving) solitude emerge. An elder few can reside in one home and share a deal «link» that is great of together yet have various external and internal attentions, concentrations, enjoyments. There was a coming together to relationship, consume, enjoy time with other people, possibly sleep together, and in addition there is certainly a period to take pleasure from life for the peaceful moments separate from a another. There is certainly contentment in separateness that proves, that we could really see the beauty and grace that emerge in a lifetime of loving and being loved as we look back at our lives, how wise it was to work on getting beyond enmeshment/abandonment and power struggle so.
Stage 11: The Fourth Major Crisis. One or each for the lovers becomes chronically sick and, finally, gravely sick. The couple’s love and strength are tested by crisis after crisis for his or her power to stay both intimate and separate, attached and detached, loving and caregiving yet self-focused sufficient not to ever get utterly depressed through the caregiver anxiety.